Happy Halloween! So I was recently going through all of my past Facebook pics, and marveling at the different trends, hairstyles, and experiences I have had so far. I was reminiscing about high school, college, when Gare and I were first married….Man that all feels like a lifetime ago! And although I had so many great memories, and so much fun, I kept getting this recurring feeling of embarrassment too. Haha! I can’t escape the awkward years and bad photos! So today I wanted to share with you 5 life lessons I learned from looking at my Facebook.
5 life lessons I learned from looking at my Facebook…
1. We all go through awkward stages.
I have literally maybe seen ONE person who I think was actually not so awkward looking at some point in their young adult life. I’ve even realized that those who I thought were GORGEOUS and whom I envied growing up were not as untouched by the awkwardness of the tween age as I thought.
I can hardly stand to look at some old photos of me. But you know what? That was me then, and I am me now! I am a completely different person in how I act and look now vs. then, and there is no reason to hold onto the past. I no longer struggle as bad with self-esteem, I am more fit, and I am less critical of myself than I was back then.
If you want to work on loving yourself more, check out my post on 5 tested ways to improve your self-esteem!
We all have awkward stages and photos. Take them down if you don’t like them, but I think they are a reminder of how far you have come.
2. Confidence looks good on everyone!
CONFIDENCE. Have you ever looked at an old photo of yourself and remembered feeling ugly, awkward, or timid? We all have, and none of us like looking back on those pictures. But when I contrast those with pictures where I remember feeling confident, I have a completely different outlook. So remember, confidence looks good on everyone! That is definitely a lesson that I learned from looking at past photos is that I always looked better when I was confident.
3. I am not perfect.
Number three of the 5 life lessons is one of my HUGEST pet peeves…saying someone is perfect! I got this comment SO MUCH in my life, and even had siblings get told they should be more like me. And what did that do? More damage than good. Just because someone is not outwardly showing hurt or rebellion does not mean that they are or ever were perfect!
NOBODY truly understands what someone else is going through until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. And when that happens, I’m sure it would change your mind about that person being perfect, or shy, or mean, or anything really! You would just think of them as a person. Someone who is strong, amazing, or just plain real!
I was considered “perfect”, but when I look back on memories, sometimes all I can see are flaws or remember feelings or situations I was going through.
When I was told I was perfect I was struggling with home and family issues. I was unmotivated, felt very unloved at times, and was unable to break out of my shell. Some people thought I was shy, but boy I wasn’t. I was insecure and felt a constant inner struggle to truly be myself. When I was told I was perfect I was fighting my own demons of depression, perfectionism, and acceptance. I AM NOT PERFECT and NEITHER ARE YOU!
Can you tell I feel strongly about this??? Haha.
Don’t trust peoples social media feeds. They are curated. Putting on a face for a time can be easy. Trust me, I did it all the time! Love people, serve others, and make sure everyone feels like someone cares. Perfection creates impossible shoes to fill.
4. Angels come when you need them!
I have had so many angels come into my life. These angels were people who saw me for who I was truly, and still loved me anyway. I have had my fair share of trials, disappointments and betrayals in my life (some of which I am still learning to forgive), and these angels blew through all the walls I put up and helped me along on my journey. These angles didn’t give up on my when the going got rough.
MUSHY GUSHY ALERT! One of my biggest angels is my sweet husband. He came into my life at a time where I was struggling with depression, anxiety about the future, and life in general. I really struggled with getting close to others at that point in my life, and it seemed like I always got hurt when I opened up to anyone. But he busted through the walls I had up, and has never EVER betrayed my trust or my love. I am stronger now, and I know it is because of his love and assurance that I am worth it. He treats me like a queen even after 5 years of marriage, and has been the hugest blessing in my life.
5. I did not peak in those memories! I am on an uphill slope in life and it will only continue to get better as I keep trying to learn and grow.
Sometimes I look at the past and wish I could change or relive things. But you know what I realized today? I am grateful I can’t go back because I think I would be degrading my life. I am the person I am today because of those past experiences and I did not peak then! If I want to I can peak today, tomorrow, and every day from now on as long as I keep trying, learning and growing! Life is an uphill battle, but that also makes it an uphill slope which means it can only get better. I’m always excited to see what tomorrow brings.
Most of those were pretty deep…I bet you were expecting something like ‘orange eye shadow never looks good on anyone’ huh???
Thanks for stopping by! I really appreciate you in my life, and I am grateful for this journey I am on and that we can go through it together.
Which of the 5 life lessons stuck with you the most? Let me know in the comments below.
Love you all! Muah!
P.S. speaking of Facebook, did you know I had a Hazel Darling Facebook page? Go give it a like and a follow!