Hello!!!!! Ok, here I go again on a book about human nature and positive psychology! I can’t help it you guys! I love this stuff! Anyway, I’ll try to branch out more in the future. The book I am reviewing today is “Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box” written by the Arbinger Institute. So this book….this book is amazing! It is a very in depth view on human nature, and how we sabotage our success and our relationship with others. What is the box you ask? Well you are just going to have to read the book. They specifically say in there to not try and explain “the box” to anyone because it is hard to grasp. Did I scare you off there? 🙂
“Whenever we are in the box, we have a need that is met by others’ poor behavior. And so if our boxes encourage more poor behavior in others, even if that behavior makes our lives more difficult.”
This book follows a story about a man who is learning how to better understand and deal with difficulties in his relationships with other people and himself at home and work. It is a book about reflecting on our current actions and whether they are ‘in the box or out of the box.’ When we are in the box we are selfish, justify our actions and don’t get the results we would like to see in life. This is called self-deception. Out of the box we can get better results in life and are focused on others and their individual worth. This is especially important knowledge for those in a work setting and more so those individuals who manage a team of people.
(Here is an old picture of Garrett in the box haha… ;))
“Self-deception- the inability to see that one has a problem.”
As I said before, this was a GREAT and very INSPIRATIONAL read for me. I’m not going to lie though…it was a little confusing at times because of the subject matter, but it helped that Garrett had already read this book so we could discuss it with each other. When we were discussing it we both agreed that this was a book we would have to read over and over and over again to completely grasp and glean the valuable information given.
I say give it a try! If you end up reading this book I would love to know your thoughts about it! Feel free to shoot me an email or drop a comment below. I hope you like it! Be sure you check out my other book reviews here. Also, I would love book suggestions! What is your favorite book?